How To Relax (How To Be Okay)

  • Lie down and close your eyes.
  • Look at soothing dog pictures.
  • Drink something warm.
  • Stare at a candle.
  • Let yourself feel your feelings.
  • Hold a fuzzy toy, pillow, or piece of clothing. Concentrate on how it feels to touch.
  • Focus on the present. The past is irrelevant because you can't change it, and the future is irrelevant because you're not there yet.
  • Go for a walk and feel the air move around you.
  • Remember that you are not the same version of you that existed in every previous moment. You are a composite and a new, different you.
  • Remember that all the things that make you feel awed exist. Sunsets and Scandinavian pottery and Space Raiders.
  • Imagine yourself as a body of water or a beam of light.
  • Gather a smell you're really fond of if you can (I like lavender or cinnamon).
  • Scribble or doodle something. It gives your hands a mindless thing to do, which can be calming.
  • Listen to rain or fireplace or thunderstorm sounds.
  • Build a blanket fort.
  • Take a bath or shower just for the sake of it. Let the water warm you. You can use nice smelling things or candles.
  • Tidy or clean something.
  • Feed yourself, clean yourself, and generally look after yourself. Make yourself do it.
  • Write a journal entry. Get all your feelings out. Don't hesitate or think about what you're writing, just write.


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